Things that make you go Hmmm...

I apologize for interrupting the re-caps, but something is bothering me today and I'm curious of your opinions.

Let me give you some background information first.

Mr. 2SB took a new position with his company at the beginning of the month. Since starting 3 1/2 weeks ago, he's had 2 days off total and has been working really long hours. I knew this could happen and thought I was prepared for it, but nope, not the case! The first week I ate dinner by myself, which typically doesn't affect me, but as I was eating and watching So You Think You Can Dance, I just started crying. Pretty much just feeling sorry for myself. After the first week was over, I was feeling much better about everything and knew (hoped) that after a month or so things would get better, he would work less (which still hasn't happened) or I would just learn to deal with it, which I am. I can eat dinner alone and not burst into tears...woo whoo...go me!

So anyway, the other day That Wife (aka Mrs. Avocado) wrote this post about her husband working longer hours and such and how hard it has been on her and their relationship. The post really struck a chord with me. Do you ever read a post from another blogger and think you could write the same thing? It was one of those posts that I could copy and paste into my life. I commented and told her I knew what she was going through and that it can only get better. As I was reading through the other comments one got me really worked up, which usually isn't normal.

Here's what it said:

Amy says:

August 25, 2009 at 1:57 pm

Oh, btw- if a man can’t do his job in 40 hours, maybe he isn’t the man for the job. Just a little food for thought…

It really caught me off guard and I had to reply to it after being through the last few weeks.

Here was my response:

Heidi Reply:
August 25th, 2009 at 5:31 pm

Are you serious? I only work 40 hours, but my husband put in around 80 for each of the last 3 weeks. He works in a retail setting, so his long hours benefit his customers. Might be time to take off your rose-colored glasses and look into the real world!

A little harsh, yes, but oh well! I didn't think anything of the comment until this morning and went to see if there were any replies. Just my luck...there was!

Amy Reply:
August 25th, 2009 at 6:00 pm

It’s good that hubby’s customers are so much more important than you are. Seriously, I’d take a good look at why strangers are more important than you are to your husband. I’m so sorry for you that you have had to endure that the past three weeks– and for the furtherment of capitalist greed nonetheless.

I was completely shocked! By what I said, I can't imagine that someone would really job there. (On a side note, it seems that That Wife's blog has had some followers who are jumping to some very wrong conclusions...if you read these posts - 1, 2, 3 - you can get the drift.) So, I shouldn't have been surprised by the comment, but I still felt (and fell) attacked. I could never imagine judging someone's entire relationship based on one comment. My comment could have seemed like an attack to "Amy" but I can't think of very many of my friends and family who only work 40 hours a week and I know they all work hard. "Amy" made some other comments that you can read through, but I just had to respond today.

So, here's what I said.

Heidi says:

August 26, 2009 at 4:44 pm

Wow Amy…you are so right! His customer’s are way more important than I am and if he had a choice to spend time with me or work more, he would definitely work more. Since you know everything about relationships, you have to tell me what to do! I was hoping you would have a blog or something so I can strive to have a life exactly like yours! Since your all aspects of your life seem perfect, I can think of no better thing to do than to live my life according to Amy. Please tell me you have a blog or a book or something! I’m not sure how I’ve made it this far in my life with out you!

I hope you picked up my sarcasm.

I am making no further comments to "Amy" ever, but I just can't get over some people!

So that's where my head's been at today! I know I shouldn't let this affect me the way it is, but I have a hard time believing "Amy" would say this face to face...but then again maybe she would. The internet is just a strange place!

So, what do you think? Was I completely off guard? Its really ok if you think I am! I know I stooped to her level, but what can a girl do? Have you ever felt attacked in the cyber-world? How did you handle it? (Hopefully better than I did!)